When someone we love feels depressed, it is only natural to want to help. Here are steps you can take.

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1. Educate yourself about their illness and it's treatment.
2. Read everything you can about how it feels to be depressed. It will help to understand why your loved one behaves the way they do.
3. Caring for a depressed person can be very draining. Take some time out to care for your own needs.
4. Give them support and love when they need it.
5. It's okay to feel angry, upset or frustrated. Develop a support system for yourself so you have someone to vent your feelings to.
6. Remember that depressed people can be angry, withdrawn or sad. They may not feel like having sex or doing the things they used to enjoy. This does not mean that they don't love you anymore. It's the illness talking.
7. Normal daily activities like housework, grocery shopping or paying bills can seem overwhelming to a depressed person. You may need to help them out for awhile just as you would if they had any other illness.
8. Remind your loved one of the importance of continuing their treatments. Help them with remembering medications and appointments.
9. One of the most important things depression robs one of is hope. Give them hope in whatever form you can.
10. Let them know that although you are angry with their illness, you will always love them.
    

1. The most important thing you can do is just to be there and give them your support.
2. It is not your fault that they are depressed. Depression is an illness.
3. If your loved one becomes suicidal, do not hesitate to contact their physician for assistance.
   

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