Question: How to Cope With Holiday Depression
The Thanksgiving and Christmas
holidays are always a time of depression for me. What can I do to cope this year?
One of the biggest causes of stress during the holidays is high expectations for how the holidays ought to be. Some tips to help you keep your expectations reasonable include:
- Don't judge the value of a gift by its price tag. The best gifts come from the sincere desire to make a person happy.
- You don't have to do everything that's asked of you. Learn to assert yourself and say no. Also, learn how to delegate responsibility and manage your time better.
- Share with someone less fortunate to reconnect yourself with the true meaning of Christmas.
- Accept that your family is a real family, not a TV family, so things will probably always be less than perfect. This doesn't have to ruin your holiday.
- Remember that things will occasionally go wrong. If you can learn to face these little setbacks with style and grace you'll find yourself having a better holiday because you're more relaxed.
- If you can't be with someone you love, find a creative way to make the holiday special. For example, send cookies, gifts or a special videotaped greeting to a far away relative. Or arrange to spend another day together as "Christmas." You don't have to be limited to what other people expect that Christmas should be.